What You Should Know About Moving Out For The First Time

Independence is such a sweet little thing. When we live with our parents or any figure of authority in our lives, we're bound by their rules and usually the stricter these figures of authorities are, the more likely it will be for the child to want to move out.

Moving out is different for a lot of us. Some of us move out and be literally on our own, some move out with pets and some move out to move in with other people as roommates or a partner. And it also happens at different points of our lives.

When I started to live on my own, I did my research and asked around but there really were some things nobody told me about:

Do it when you’re able.

The time to move out differs for all of us and there is no deadline really. However, when you are able to, I don’t think it’s something you should delay. When you’re at the right age and are able to provide for yourself, then you really should consider trying to see the real world - unless you have financial factors like debts or people you need to provide for or you are saving for your own property that will drag your financial state to the negatives if you move out. Move out when you are able to  and not just because everyone else is moving out. Do it primarily for yourself.

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Be your own backup.

I personally believe it is not a good mindset to move out with the belief that you have your parents as a back up or you can just move back in when things get difficult. I think the best thinking to go for is "I made this choice and I have to make it on my own." So you do everything (legal) it takes to make it on your own. Be your own backup. This way, it will be easier to get priorities straight especially your finances.

Compromise is key.

When we don't normally pay for rent, food or utilities or we pay only portions of it, we have spending power for other unnecessary things and that is alright. As long as your situation allows you to spend as much as what you have, then the world is your oyster. However, when you move out, all those home bills will be up on your shoulders now. Unless you're extremely wealthy, then it's really better to start learning to compromise with the spending or else you'll end up acquiring debt. This is actually the most difficult lesson I had to learn.

Get skilled.

Whether you are moving out to be on your own or to be with your partner, this is the time to really learn some skills for yourself. Just because you have someone else around does not mean you’ll completely depend on him/her. This is your chance to finally learn how to organise your finances, to cook, to clean, do your laundry or just basically anything any adult should be able to do for himself.

This will be one of your best decisions.

It is scary and everyone who moves out will have their own kind of fear and that is okay. That is completely normal because you are uprooting yourself from your comfort zone and trying something out on your own. But you should also know that everything will be alright.

There are so many things about yourself and the world around you that you can never learn under the comfort and protection of your parents. It is good to stay where you are loved but it is even better to learn to provide that kind of love and protection for yourself.

This might even be the one of the very best decisions you'll ever make in your life because it is surely one of mine.